“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness…it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us… .” – Charles Dickens, A Tale of Two Cities
O.K. We’re not living through the French Revolution, upon which Dickens’ famous novel is based, nor do I sense another one on the horizon. But civic dichotomies; that is, the best of times and the worst of times often do happen within lifetimes. Dubuque is doing well. We are paying attention to new opportunities for growth. We are sincerely addressing issues of hospitality—for all people. These are good things and difficult matters that require significant cooperation, patience, humility and determination across aisles and within neighborhoods. So I do have to admit that I was more than a little perplexed by all the energy surrounding the recent dog park controversy. Really? Dog parks?
I like dogs. In fact, I love dogs. When George died a year ago, I cried almost as hard as I did the time we lost our first Boston. I believe that dogs are about as close as we humans will come to experiencing unconditional love. And so I imagine that, when things are going well, such as they are in our community, there is a tendency to prioritize amenities like dog parks to supplement our overall regional experience. I understand that temptation.
The problem is there are other priorities we need to be thinking about to make our community even stronger as we prepare for the next inevitable downturn in economic fortune. No, I’m not that guy who places lumps of coal in Christmas stockings, but I do encourage prudence, like long-term CD’s. Like it or not, I am in the business of mitigating risk while also discerning new opportunities for growth that benefit other humans.
Therefore, we might consider prioritizing the following:
Education: Pre-K-12. Folks, we’re falling further behind;
Higher Education: I have a practice of meeting with nearly every first year student early in the fall semester. One of the things I learned this year is that students come to us because we are more affordable than their home states of New York, California, and Illinois. We’re also safe and friendly;
Brain Health: Let Dubuque be the community that shows the rest of Iowa how to reach out to our neighbors—early—so that interventions, diagnosis, treatment, and brain health management becomes normative rather than an occasional happy anecdote;
Dignity and Opportunity: As Arthur Brooks illustrates in his new book, Love Your Enemies, millions of Americans no longer feel needed—by their families, their communities, the economy, or their country. Generally, people don’t want handouts. We mostly want to be treated with dignity.
I still remember a student that graduated from our University years ago. After Commencement, he was sitting on the Quad staring in the distance.
“Do you hear that?” he said to me.
“Hear what?” I said, “I don’t hear a thing.”
“That’s my point,” he said. “No sirens. No gunshots. Just the Bell tower. I’m staying here.”
And he did. He is a productive citizen who now has a family, pays property taxes, and is giving back to the community that gave him opportunity, and treated him with dignity.
Dignity and opportunity can be the lasting tale of this city—for humans and for those that love them unconditionally.
Originally published in the Dubuque Telegraph Herald.
civility no. 1 for all cities, towns, villages and human communities
Duane,
Thank you for your comment, and for engaging the blog!
Jeff
I could not agree more with your assessment here.
Thank you, Rick!
Jeff
“coal in the Christmas stocking?” Several years ago, my daughter was informing her five-year old son, Micah, of the consequences of mis-behaviour at Christmas, that there could be a piece of coal in his stocking!
His comment, “Good, I can add it to my rock collection!” Later, he informed his Mother that, when he goes to college, he will major in paleontology.
Joel,
Thank you for your comment and for engaging the blog! Smart grandson!
Jeff
Jeff, thank you for your blog posts. They are always thoughtful and almost always provoke reflection… in fact, I have sometimes printed them out and read them aloud at various gatherings of friends and family. I do not actually have additional priorities for your current list, but I do have something to offer up. I believe the following actually hits all of the ones you listed though.
Last nite at a weekly community education class I am taking at our local junior college, a woman was complaining about teachers in her school forbidding students from picking out and reading books of their own choice in her media center. For instance, her students are told that book is too easy, or too hard, or that’s not a book – because it is a graphic novel. As a retired special ed teacher, I know why the teachers are guiding students to choose books at their reading levels, but the issue my colleague has is that Teachers are destroying kids Wanting to read.
Certainly, this will not deter voracious readers, but as my own children were coming up, I was delighted to see them reading on their own, even if it was a comic book. If a child picks a book above their tested reading level, they must be interested in that particular book, don’t you think? Maybe they have someone at home to help them through it.
The point is: reading is a vitally important life skill; don’t kill the desire to practice it. You just might see these kids surpass expectations because you fostered their interest in reading. This action just may pave the way for that child to seek Higher Education. Will this activity not foster Brain Health more than video games or roaming the street with no direction? And every time a book is finished, does this not enhance the Dignity of completion and the Opportunity to succeed at something and strive for the next?
Bill,
Thank you for your very generous words (and for sharing the blog!), and for your insightful reflections!
Jeff
Thank you for your comments. Dr. Jeff. As usual, they are clear, concise and focused. I’m certain you often feel like “A voice crying out in the wilderness..” But I thank God you are that voice..
Each day we see a society that has lost civility and respect for one another. We see it on the roads we drive, in general conversation, exclusiveness that treats large segments of our population as if they are invisible and an almost insatiable rush to judgement and conviction of individuals and ideas before any facts or information are presented..
Thank goodness we also see people like yourself and others engaging and challenging our society towards more positive thoughtfulness and action.
I am also gratefulk for the random acts of kindness and concern we all see in our daily lives. I thank God for the best of times that appear to remind us that not all is negative or purposeless..
Thanks for raising the bar and setting before us areas of concern that need our time and energy. God Bless you.
Don Neely C 57
Don,
Thank you for your very thoughtful response, and for engaging the blog and other readers.
Jeff